Ask yourself, why am I so obsessed with porn and masturbation? Is it because it feels so good and I just can’t get out of it? Is it because I know my heavenly father forgives me after I do it? Is it because there’s no one around to judge me when I do it? Or is it because I feel like I can’t rely on people to go to for troubles? Truth be told, they’re all correct. You really want to stop but you always feel the need driven by lust to relieve it and when you do so, you’re not quite proud of yourself. How can such a nasty habit be stopped? Here are four tips in order for you to stop:
- Look deep within yourself: find out how it all began. A Journey of a Thousand Miles Starts with One Step – Lao-tzu. Go back to the very core to when it started and think about why you started doing it. This could go back to when you first gazed upon porn or to when you started masturbating. However porn does not always start the need for sex. You must find out why you started so you can unlock a piece of your inner self to know what started a chain reaction that got you addicted to it.
- Start writing: You want to know something crazy? Writing is actually a good distraction from looking at porn. Weather if you’re being inspired to write something creative or if you jotting down what’s on your mind, your concentration is focused on the computer and not at porn. Start writing more and if you have to, start a journal for how you feel most the time and for a log entry for your journal for the days you’ve gone without looking at porn. If for some reason you looked at porn again, start your log all over again and erase your old log. Starting over can be annoying so that should be some motivation for you to stop.
- Talk to someone: Tell someone your struggles to someone you know who you can trust. This might be the hardest task for you to stop your struggle with porn. I understand that we live in a society where people constantly judge one and another for a person’s actions and it might be hard to find someone who can help but if porn is something you struggle with so badly then you need to tell someone about it. If you feel like you can’t talk to anyone about it, talk to your heavenly father about it. Hear me when I call, O God of my righteousness: you have enlarged me when I was in distress; have mercy on me, and hear my prayer.-Psalms 4:1. God will hear out your prayer when you feel that no one will hear you.
- Resist the urge! Remember when I said that the other task might be the hardest? Well in a lot of ways it can be but so can this one. Breaking away from addiction is most definitely hard especially all the suggestive photos on the internet nowadays but it’s not impossible. You just have to try as hard as you can to stop. You have to really want to stop in order to stop, get what I’m saying? Even when you come across something suggestive for porn, try not to be tempted by it.
That’s all the advice I can give to you. If for some reason my advice didn’t work, I will pray for you but remember, the only one that can prevent you from looking at porn again is you. Best of luck to you all and may God bless everyone!